is it ever acceptable to tell someone who has hurt you how much they've hurt you?  the boy I was seeing broke up with me two months ago for no reason--one day he was telling me how much he'd fallen for me, and three days later he said he "didn't have time for a relationship" and couldn't give me what I deserve.  we haven't really spoken seriously since, though I see him for three hours every day (we're on the same track team).  I want to tie up some loose ends just so I can move on, but it looks like he already has.

It depends on how you say things. I think you should talk to him for closure's sake and get answers to the questions that have been killing you. But only those that need to be ask and things that NEED to be said. Yelling and causing a fight will not help anything, and, even though you may think so at the time, does not make you the stronger person, but the weaker one. Just make sure to get everything out there that you need. If you havent noticed, need is the key word.
Telling him only what HURT will not provide much for you and might lead to you crying. I dont believe youd want to cry in front of him.

I haven't been here in a while. I hope I can still give as good advice as then. I've learned a few things now, with new heart break of my own, and new relationships. So here's me. Give me questions please.

<3 katie

i thought me and my boyfriend had one of the most healthy relationships going. We are now 8 months and going strong, but he has a problem with being a bit clingy. He never wants to leave me. He just can't let go of me. And that's hard for me because although that's flattering and all, I'm being suffocated. I can't breathe in this relationship. But, I do love him and I don't want to leave him. I just don't know how to approach him on this. I don't want to be like you're suffocating me. My boyfriend is the sensative type, and I know that it would hurt him if I told him that I don't always like hanging out all the time. But I can't hang out with him every single day. And also, because he doesn't want to let me go a little, I've lost a lot of my guy friends because he gets really jealous and scared he's going to lose me. He said he's scared I'm going to realize that "I'm amazing"( which i don't agree with) and I'm going to go for someone better. Which isn't true. I just need to breathe and maintain a relationship at the same time. Am I asking for too much?

Youre not asking for too much at all. You definitley need to let him know that youre not okay with his clinginess, but also that you dont want to break up with him.
Tell him how you feel about him. Maybe if he knows how much you love (like) him, he'll stop being so jealous when youre around other guys.
Healthy relationships need space or youre both going to get really annoying.
Build him up. It sounds cliche, but if he doesnt love himself enough, then he cant love anyone else.

my friend confessed that he always wanted to hook up with me, and i agreed. do you think that it will hurt our friendship and that there will be no possibility of it turning into a relationship?

a relationship will depend of the two of you. ive always thought that friends would be great together because friendship is part of a relationship.

if you do hook up, then make sure that its going to go somewhere. because if its not, then it could very well hurt your friendship in the after math and leave you confused.

<3 katie

ps- if you have a more personal problem that you wouldnt want to ask publically, then feel free to send me a message and keep it private. thanks.